Good Evening Beautiful,
As I prepare for bed, I am met with this thought. This thought on the fact that when we want something, we work for something, and then all of sudden once we have it, we often just coast or we ruin it.
Tonight I'm talking specifically about romantic partnerships.
Ok, let's break this down a bit. We are not meant to live and die alone, period. We are meant to love and nurture and share energy back and forth. We crave it. Even those who think they don't, do, and they're probably getting it somehow, somewhere however, and they aren't self aware enough to see that. For example, if you say you don't but you're on social and look to see who and what people are saying or liking, newsflash my friend, you crave love.
When we are alone, and when I say "we" I am referring to the human race in general, we often think about what it would be like to have someone in our life. We fantasize about marriage and children, family and sex, birthdays and Christmas's and just someone to hold us when times are tough, and so much more, am I right? Admit it, I am.
So, fast forward and we meet someone of interest, someone who intrigues us and start the- what I want to call "moment in time", where we put our best foot forward, laugh with that person, love with that person, have fun with that person and hopefully, build with that person. We try to get to know them and what makes them tick, feel good and ultimately get to know who they are and how they makes us feel.
If all goes well, we enter a partnership with them and continue the journey through life together.Maybe control creeps in, disrespect creeps in or simply lack but often something changes. Something happens where we slow down, disengage or even stop the curiosity, kind gestures and nurturing. Why?
Why is it that so many people truly do want love and partnership and with YOU but then just stop trying or worse, SABOTAGE themselves.
I know why. Trauma. Ya Ya, it's an overused term but I believe it as a fact.
We all have it. We all have our 'stuff' and that 'stuff' can prevent us from being the best, having the best and living out our lives to our truest potential.
It's sad. It's actually heartbreaking.
Remember this when your partner annoys you. That person once was everything you wanted. You didn't want to be alone. You don't want to be alone. It is not always their fault, and you my friend probably have some work to do, just you like you think they do.
You deserve love. They deserve love. We all deserve love.
Good Night and sweet dreams xo